Identity and the Illusion of “Good Enough”

We’re raised to choose a path long before we even know who we are.

Pick a study. Pick a job. Pick a mortgage. Pick a life.

At sixteen or eighteen, you’re asked to make choices that shape your income, your worth, your self-image — all before you’ve even met your true genius, let alone been guided toward it. Before you’ve seen what life really is about, or all the possibilities it holds.

And somehow, we’re expected to stick to that plan until the gold watch or retirement.

All the while hustling for money, and being grateful for weekends, Netflix, and holidays. Yes, you lead a good life. But still, that quiet gnawing feeling of not enough never really leaves. And it’s as random as it sounds.

The illusion of choice

Does this sound a little exaggerated? Maybe. But I challenge you to look back — to look inward — and observe yourself and the choices you made. From what place were those choices made?

You built an identity around those early decisions. Some of them just seemed to have happened to you.

Now you measure yourself in billable hours, salary, productivity, performance reviews.
You get good at it. Maybe even successful.

But somewhere deep inside, there’s that whisper:
“Good enough is not enough.”

When “adulting” becomes self-erasure

Because somehow, you got stuck in the hustle.

Not enough money to be free.
Not enough time.
Not enough energy for the things that make you feel alive.
Not enough rest.
Not enough presence.
Not enough fire.
Not enough space for stillness, for art, for curiosity, for the part of you that remembers who you were before all this.

We call it being an adult.
In school, you were trained to get used to it — to understand “how things work in the real world.”

But let’s be honest: why should you settle for that story?
You decide how your own adult life works.
You can step out of the loop anytime and make a change.

We built lives around versions of ourselves that were never meant to carry that much weight, and then we wonder why they crack one day.

Your spirit doesn’t care about your LinkedIn headline

Here’s the truth: your spirit couldn’t care less about your LinkedIn headline.

It cares about resonance. About the frequency of being fully alive.

So maybe the question isn’t “Am I doing enough?”
Maybe it’s “Am I being enough?”

And I don’t mean fame or status. I mean that deep, unmistakable sense of being fully here — body, mind, energy, purpose.

If you’re reading this thinking, “I know there’s more, but I can’t quite name it,” that’s not failure.
That’s your true self rearing its head.

Awareness first.
Then action.

Identity is not your job title

Identity isn’t your job title.
It’s not your follower count, your bank account, or your business model.

It’s something far greater — it stretches beyond lifetimes, beyond dimensions, beyond this flat system of work, money, and perpetual hustle.

So… who are you really?
And how would the ultimate version of you show up to totally nail the time you have on this earth?

I’d love to find out.
Because clarity on the most basic question of all opens up an entire universe of opportunities.

This is not me fixing you

This is you remembering who you were before the world told you to behave.

Truly seeing what sets you on fire. Following your bliss and acknowledging your dreams and obsessions for what they are: direction.

You are god consciousness in a human suit, fully alive. Why settle for less?

Change doesn’t take time.
It’s a decision.
The time is now.

Are you in?
Spots are limited since I’m only working one-on-one online for now.
I’m here, waiting for you to say YES, and explore it together.

Love, Annemarijn

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